One thing you should realize when you break up with your partner is break up is a life journey as well as a lesson that will be useful for you. Break up is a normal thing and we don't need to drown in regret and sadness. There is a saying, "a break up is like a broken mirror, it's better to leave it broken than hurt yourself to fix it". Many people, especially women, relieve their stress and depression when break up by crying. But are there any positive things to do beside crying? Of course there are. Here are 5 things to do after a break up:
1. Make yourself busy
As we experience sadness when break up, try to do other things you like. Don't allow yourself daydreaming too much because you definitely will remember the past events. Begin to improve your quality of life by practicing some skills, reading books, playing music or getting involved in social activities. Those activities will build a positive mood and make you realize that break up is not the end of the world.
2. Don't regret and feel guilty about your relationship
As already stated in the beginning of this article, a relationship is a journey of life. Surely, you will face many obstacles and learn a lot from failures. Just think of it as a moment to contemplate and ameliorate yourself. Learn from your experience!
3. See the break up from the bright side
Don't see a problem only from the dark side, see from the bright side as well. Is it bad to break up with someone? Not always. Just assume that break up happens because you deserve someone better or finally you can express yourself more freely. You will be more excited because you know out there, there is someone better than him/her and you deserve him/her!
4. Increase your confidence levels
It's often, someone who experience a break up will feel less confident. We will feel unable to build a good relationship or feel we're not the ones who deserve to be loved. Well, that situation usually makes a person afraid to build a new relationship and even in certain cases they hate the opposite sex because they think all people are the same. Don't ever feel inferior because of the break up. When the situation is really depressing, you can ask for support from your closest people. But the most important thing is you must be able to convince yourself not to give up looking for true love, because God has arranged everything for you. Be strong!
5. Prepare yourself for a new relationship
The final step is to prepare yourself to open a new chapter of your life story. To do this, you have to really get rid of hurt and sadness due to your past relationship. Never force yourself to build a new relationship right away when you haven't fully recovered yet, since it will only destroy your life further. In many cases, broken hearted people make a new relationship right away for reasons that they have already found a new love. Yet in their deepest heart, they just want to take revenge on their ex. Relationships that are based on hatred and revenge will never make you happy.
Otherwise, calm yourself down and let your wounds heal first. Then make sure that you've learned a lot from the past relationship. Don't be too desperate with love because it's often love will eventually come to you when you're not looking for it. :)